Your happiness starts with you. It begins with your mind and how you think. Many people fail to realize that they have to learn to be happy. Life with throw all kinds of curveballs at you and how you deal with those situations determines your happiness. We’re all human and no one is happy all day every day but the important thing is that we try.
Do not base your happiness on the situations you have going on in life or where you are. We all know that life isn’t fair to anyone so, your happiness begins with being thankful. Appreciating what you have now is a key factor in becoming happy. If you are not where you want to be in your career or in your life in general, do not allow yourself to find reasons to discredit yourself and what you’ve don’t to get where you are.
Change is not hurtful and once you invite change into your life you will benefit immediately. Change is not impossible even though you may feel as if the process is. Don’t stop reaching for your dreams because of your age or our situation. Change your mindset, shake up your routine, or start something new to freshen up your life. Prepare yourself for change by thinking of the positives because most of the time those positives outweigh the negatives.
Once you feel disappointed in yourself, try to learn some skills to improve your happiness. Having more control over your life will change you from being helpless to helpful. It allows you to begin to help yourself and others.
1. Be the optimist, not the pessimist
You must believe in yourself and stop dwelling on what may go wrong. Focus on what could go right and your attitude about whatever situation you’re in will flip immediately. You’ll begin to think about the positive side of everything and your mood will improve. Pay no attention to naysayers and any failures you may come across because this may discourage you. You can ignore those things or you can use them as fuel to push you to be better.
Acknowledge your losses and take them as lessons. You can be a true winner if you haven’t failed at all. Use wisdom to figure out what you can learn from failure and apply it to your daily life. Your mistakes do not define you but show how much you are trying. Your success begins with trying. An optimist always thinks about the opportunities in difficulty and a pessimist always thinks about the difficulties in an opportunity. Don’t be a pessimist.
2. Take self-care seriously
Taking care of yourself should be a big priority in life. Learning self-love takes time and patience, but the end result is life changing. Self-care leads to confidence, wisdom, and success. Your self-esteem determines how well you do in life, how you interact with others, and the perspective you have of the world.
Self-care is serious and should be taken as such. We sometimes forget to take care of ourselves. Our mind and body should be tended to carefully and with the right spirit. The more we forget about ourselves the more our energy dissipates and we have little to no motive to get what we need to or want to get done.
If you find it difficult to get time to take care of yourself, then you are not putting your well-being as a top. How are you expected to do good work and participate in daily activities without a positive and clear mindset? Markdown and set times that you want to dedicate to yourself. You will suddenly begin to have the energy you need to achieve success by having the supportive foundations you’ve set.
Practice self-care by:
- Drinking more water
- Feeding yourself nourishing foods
- Getting enough sleep
- Treating yourself
3. Find your passion
No matter the age, it’s important and always encouraged that you find your dream and go for it. Many people get distracted by the things life throws at us and we neglect the passions we have. If you fall off and realize you’ve forgotten about what you’ve always wanted to do, get back on it and start trying again. It is easy to get caught in the daily life of a mundane routine by going to work and coming home afterward, just to do the same thing over and over.
You may feel like you are stuck, but trust me you are not. Take that leap of faith and start initiating action. Once you begin trying, everything will fall into place when it is supposed to. If you hate your job, move on to something new. It may sound scary and unpromising, but if you ask anyone how they felt after they did drastically change something about their lives, like a job or a big move, they will tell you it made them happier in the end.
Figuring what your passion is taking a lot of self analyzation. Try to find ways to achieve a goal and act on your passions to get yourself closer to happiness. Change your job and find a career in a new field. Find something that will make you happy doing it.
4. Add a little exercise to your routine
Getting active is one area that many people, still to this day, discredit for being a way to create happiness. Working out isn’t fun for some people and this causes their bodies to be sad. A sad body leads to a sad mind. This goes hand in hand with self-care and catering to your mind and soul. Working out not only benefits your body but your overall health and mood. You feel better after a workout and your body will thank you.
5. Change your focus
Ask yourself what you constantly think about? Are you focused on the wrong things in life? Don’t constantly think about where you’re not going and focus on where you’ve been to build a motive to keep going. Make a change to focus on the things you have to take care of. If you want a better career, make that your focus. Productivity makes you feel good about yourself but also puts you in better situations. Place your focus on becoming a better person for yourself and for others. Be responsible.
6. Eliminate distractions
You may feel like you aren’t succeeding and can be going down the wrong path due to distractions. Eliminate anything that is not benefitting you or won’t benefit you in the long run. Remove anything that doesn’t motivate you, that means people as well. Surround yourself with people that are doing what you want to be doing or with those who are on a similar page as you. This allows no room for distractions.
7. Create long term and short term goals
It may seem simple, but it is quite important to achieving a happy life. Change the way you set goals and make them realistic. The feeling of marking a goal off a list or accomplishing something you’ve been focused on is one of the best feelings. Not only does it push you to continue your other goals but makes you feel better about where you are in life.
Setting goals is a small factor in changing your life that gives large results. You can also learn more from LifeHacker Guy about his personal experience of optimising life, of making drastic choices to improve and to eventually master every part of his life, and therefore, his happiness.