Breakups can change the way we see commitment and even lead to depression. It’s always painful to separate from someone we shared so many beautiful memories and planned our future together.
The big hole that stays after a breakup can stop us from dating again and being happy. If you don’t know how to start a relationship after a devastating breakup, here is what you need to know:
You should give it some time
Jumping into a new relationship right after a difficult breakup is not healthy. It only proves that you can’t be on your own. There are so many things you need to do before starting a new relationship.
First of all, you need to create a new routine for yourself. You shared your whole life with someone who is not here right now. So, you might feel that something is missing. To stop feeling this way, you should make a new plan. You have all the time in the world to figure out what you want and where you want to be. Once you have a plan, you will finally feel complete.
Secondly, you have to learn how to enjoy your new status. Being single can be as fun as being in a loving relationship. Finally, you can do whatever you want without taking into account someone’s feelings.
Was your ex allergic to nuts, and you couldn’t eat them? Finally, get yourself a pack of nuts and enjoy! Your ex couldn’t take a few weeks off work to travel to Thailand with you? Pack your suitcase, darling! Now you can go wherever you want!
One day you will wake up and realize that you are 100% ready for a new adventure!
Don’t keep your ex in the closet
You might want to get your ex back. However, you should understand that it’s not a good idea. If you ended things on such bad terms, the chances of having a bright future together are pretty low. So, admit that this person is not right for you and move on.
If you keep stalking your ex on Facebook or trying to meet them ‘accidentally’ on the street, you will not be able to build a new relationship. So, don’t keep photos with them on your phone and don’t sleep in their T-shirt. You have to clear your space so that you can fill it with new wonderful things that come along.
A lot of people with broken hearts tend to compare the people they are dating to their ex-partners. Needless to say, this habit is quite unhealthy. Your date has nothing in common with your ex.
In case you start dating again, make sure to not talk about your ex or the painful breakup you are going through. The thing is that it’s a huge turnoff. However, you can tell about your past relationship if you start getting more serious with someone.
To be or not to be happy?
Your happiness depends only on you. If you want to spend years of your life thinking about your ex, who clearly doesn’t deserve you, it’s your choice. However, instead of feeling miserable, you can find inner peace and enjoy yourself.
Once you decide to be happy, you will be able to find the right person to be with. However, love doesn’t come to those who wait for it. Love comes when you are having so much fun that you forget what you were waiting for.
To attract great people, you should love your life and do things that make you happy. It works better than a new suit or professional makeup.
The bottom line
Before you start a new relationship, you should learn how to be single. Getting over your ex will take some time, so be patient. Remember that your previous experience should not affect your dating life. So, let your ex out of the closet and decide to be happy because that’s what you deserve.