One of the biggest challenges for past addicts is to find meaning in their lives. Most of them might find life after sobriety difficult and somewhat boring or dull after checking themselves into men’s rehab centers. It’s understandable.
Past addicts must realize during and after their recovery that there’s more to life than substance abuse in order to feel whole. They’re afraid of missing out on the fun and being left out, which is a mere illusion.
Unfortunately, peer pressure, parties, family reunions, and holidays will never cease to be. This is the time when those who suffer from male addiction might find themselves at dangerous crossroads. It’s important to take a set back and assess your feelings, cravings, and not give into them.
When in a social situation, it’s crucial to stand your ground. If you have a hard time rationalizing your abstinence here’s some food for thought:
Alcohol and Drugs Do Not Make you More Whole or Interesting
Guess what? You are already whole, interesting, and far superior to your intoxicated version. Rationalizing it any other way is your addiction talking, not your true self. During recovery, you may find yourself justifying your past behavior just to get another hit. You might think you’ll stop yourself there, but you won’t.
Just remember how hard men’s rehabilitation was for you and how hard you’ve worked to stay sober. If you decide to throw that away on a whim, you’ll have to start all over again, and each time will be harder. Do not seek futile excuses for your addiction; instead, seek a life of fulfillment outside of it.
Seeking External Stimulation Will Not make You Happy or Fulfilled
Psychiatrist and best-selling author Brian Weiss said, “Happiness comes from within.” What he means is that we are responsible for our happiness, and any fulfillment we’re seeking outside of ourselves, be it drug or alcohol abuse, will not do us justice; quite the opposite.
No one is immune to the hardship of self-betterment and transformation. It takes great effort and responsibility to understand that we need to shift our perspective, shed our old way of being in order to gain personal satisfaction and fulfillment.
Change means discomfort. If you’re willing to accept discomfort as a consequence of chance, you will better your life beyond expectation. You’ve already made a big first step: checking yourself into a men-only rehabilitation center, so don’t stop there.
We understand that words may not always have the power to pierce our brain to motivate us to make an immediate change. However, we’re here to offer you options to reconsider your past behavioral issues and look forward to a better future.
Here’s how to make your life more exciting and worth living substance-free:
Jump-start Your Career and Educational Journey
As a teenager, you may have disliked the idea of continuing your education or even dropped out of college. It’s no use feeling ashamed or bad about it. Gaining new knowledge or learning a new craft is not age-dependent and this might be the best time to further your studies get that degree you always wanted or simply learn a new skill.
When you stop bleeding money into substance abuse and start investing in yourself and your career, you’ll witness many positive changes that will contribute to a better self-image and self-esteem.
Travel the World, Meet New People and Build New Relationships
You may have done some traveling or maybe you haven’t done much traveling at all. Nonetheless, there is no such thing as too much sight-seeing as long as you have the resources and time to do it. Traveling can open a lot of doors, expand your linguistic qualities, encourage open-mindedness, and much more.
Best of all, you don’t need to travel alone. Call some friends or family members who may have missed hanging out with you in the past. This will also be an excellent way to rebound with your loved ones and have fun together.
Family and friends are important. If a family is a sensitive subject because some may have cut you out of their lives, we’re here to tell you that all hope is never lost. We encourage you to try and mend your relationship with family members who are willing to have you back in their lives. You might be surprised how much some people are willing to forgive and forget. Rebounding with friends and family and having a stable support system is a stepstone in your recovery process.
Showing Up During the Holidays
Sometimes, family gatherings during the holidays can be a bit much, even for the average Joe, but not in a bad way. The holidays are those special occasions when you get together with people you may not get see very often, so these precious moments should be cherried. After all, we don’t have each other for eternity.
There are many great activities you can host during the holidays: boardgame night, costume party, pool party, or simply catching up and enjoying a genuine, honest conversation. The little things go a long way.
Overall, there are many other healthy activities and life goals you can pursue, as long as it’s making you feel good, fulfilled, and happy. During your time in the men-only rehab facility, you may have faced a cold reality, but that will change if you are humble, responsible, and realistic with yourself and your expectations. Rome wasn’t built in a day, so above all, be patient and kind to yourself.
All the best in your road to recovery and self-discovery!